So, here's the deal. One more time. Because I'm too passive to actually say it to the offenders.
I am not a sixteen year old who accidentally got knocked up and has no idea what I'm doing. I'm a married woman who thoughtfully and purposefully conceived a baby after a lot of research and discussion with the pertinent party (Ryan). As the research continues and I have questions, I have a variety of sources I use. Those sources do not include every woman who has ever had a baby. They do include a couple of relatives, a book, and a few websites. I measure their advice and knowledge against my own instincts and my husband's to come up with the necessary solution, action, or opinion that works for us.
So, while I appreciate, random person, that you have strong opinions about everything under the sun, perhaps take the time to ask me if I plan to breast feed/cosleep/have epidural/sell my baby on the internet before you assault me with your lecture, as we may be in agreement, and able to save both of us some time by not having to listen to you. And if we aren't in agreement, may be you'll have the good grace to realize that babies survive and thrive by a variety of parenting techniques.
It's insane, the behavior of mothers when a first time pregnant woman appears (I don't know how it is for women who are pregnant again). A friend of mine did not want an epidural, and a random woman asked her about it, and then told her "Oh, but you've never done this before. You'll be begging for an epidural before you're done." Thanks for the encouragement!
I've been trying to stay pretty private about a lot of things, because I'm not interested in the opinions of most people, and that includes even having to hear them. I wonder if I can get a t-shirt that says "Not interested in your well-meaning advice."
What was the most obnoxious piece of advice/opinion/judgement did you get when you were pregnant?
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Your t-shirt cracked me up! Surely they make it and if not, it would definitely be worth investing in. Wait until you get the size comments. "You're so tiny!" "You're so huge...must be due tomorrow, huh?" (Um..no, 4 months from now.) "Is it twins?" Those are fun, but what I always found the best was the utter lack of consistency, to one person you are huge, to another so small. Oh, and the predicting gender comments. I'll stop now, could go on all day. Most important thing is just to appear very confident and in control, and come home and laugh with Ryan.
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